Efficient Way to Take Advantage of Ethos

Brilliant Way to Be a Cool Parent

I would say it is a social norm for a parent to be rational, righteous, and wise when she is with her children. Of course, it should be this way, since the children will learn from what their parents have done and said. Though I am not parenting any child(I do not have one yet), I can feel the pressure the parents may have in the situation; and, I would say, the pressure exists until the day she dies. In order to keep that life-time responsibility, the parents should find a way to be more engaging with their children, and be good examples for their children. However, human beings are meant to be make mistakes and it is really hard to not make any mistake for the entire of life after someone has a baby! BUT, don't panic. I have a one advice for you.

I have seen many parents who tend to order their children to do something rather than persuade or ask their children to do things. Facing the problems (exigencies) with childrens, parents are given a choice to speak up or not say anything; but they usually speak up to fix the problems they found from their children. In this situation, if they speak out, the parents are feeling obligated to use their situated ethos which is a parenting position. Parents speak out not necessariliy because they fully understand the situation their childrens are situated, but because they think it is supposed to do as parents and they know it will work since they are parents.

I understand it is difficult to understand where their 3 years old children are situated but you can do better job if your children are more grown up. By the time when the children are old enough to understand your intention, it is better to talk with them instead of speak to them. In this case, I would say, it is efficient to create invented ethos to appeal to the children. For example, when you talk to your high school kids you could say:

"When I was in highschool -"

Remind your children that you were also a highschool student back in those days.

Then the next part is critical. The parents are better to speak with a first person vocie rather than a second person voice. In other words, it appears to be more humane, humble, and humane to say "I," than "You." By saying "I" while you are speaking, it will shorten the distance between you and your children. Then, try to tell some personal stories to them when you have a trouble with them. I personally feel that it would have been better if my parents could have told me about themselves more than they did (I heard and learned about them more from my grandparents than they told me directly). Since I am not a parent, so I clearly don't hold an authority speak out to the parents, but being as a child, I might have a weak situated ethos to suggest my idea!

Think about it! Adjust to in your situation! Try it!